Posts Tagged ‘New to polyamory’

Posted on May 24, 2009

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Recently, Miss Polyamory interviewed Samatha Fraser, the author of the blog (and hopefully upcoming book): Not Your Mother’s Playground. You can listen to the interview podcast here.

Not Your Mother’s Playground is Samantha’s diary about open relationships. She writes about her personal experiences, both positive and challenging, and also shares her realizations about herself and open relating.

This site is an online resource that targets a modern audience while still being accepting and inclusive of others views and lifestyle choices:

This blog, and it’s accompanying book are not intended to be a bash on anyone who might identify a little more with a non-traditional view of the world. Certainly if you are in, or considering, an open relationship or customized fidelity, chances are your views are just a tad non-traditional to start with. This blog is for those of us who just might not list renaissance fares, clothing optional triad relationships, and LARPing as our favorite activities when filling in our Facebook profiles. This isn’t to say that this book is meant for a limited audience, more specifically it’s meant for a larger percentage of society than many other books on the same subject.

- Not Your Mother’s Playground: Introduction


Keeping in-line with what I’ve written over the past few weeks, here’s the links to NYMP’s own open relationship series: “What Can Make Open Relationships Great?”


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Posted on May 7, 2009

“The problem for younger folks, simply stated, is that (aside from my new under-forty events) there are no public polyamory events in my area that have a critical mass of people in their twenties or thirties. This means that there are no reliable places to go to get age-specific support, or to meet potential partners of a similar age. While some younger poly people have no problem getting support from older folks, or dating older folks, most need people around their own age for these things, and there is effectively no organized community for these people.”

~ Pepper Mint, Age and Polyamory Organizing (5/6/2009)

To betray my age/generation…. “This.”

Awhile ago, I wrote the article Target Marketing and the Creation of Pop Culture Poly as a response to the criticism that I received for creating a site that targeted a specific age group for polyamory outreach.

Pepper Mint, a fellow social organizer and writer, wrote a post in his blog about age and polyamory organizing

He is a LOT more articulate in his article than I was. :)

In his essay, he takes a look at his own efforts in outreach towards the younger generations, as well as the criticisms that he and others have received for their endeavors.  He also takes a deeper look into one of the underlying issues surrounding culture and age, and offers solutions on how to encourage outreach and leadership development among among the under-40 crowd.

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Posted on February 8, 2009
This entry is part 9 of 9 in the series 7 Questions to Ask Yourself If You Are Considering Polyamory
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By Pawel Kryj on stock.XCHNG

This post is directed towards those of you who read through my “7 Questions” series as a way to learn more about polyamory and to determine if it is right for you.  If you decide to continue with a monogamous life at this point, that’s awesome – you are making a conscious and educated choice.

If you decide that you want to pursue a non-monogamous lifestyle (either polyamory or one of the other numerous options), there are two things that I would recommend at this point: seek resources and seek support.

In my links section (see the bottom of this page), there are a list of several websites that go deeper into the topic of polyamory, and some of these have their own library of resources. In addition, there are several books on polyamory that I recommend (see my Recommended Books section to the right).

With regards to seeking support, there are online and in-person social groups in most major cities. A quick Google search may help you with finding them. In the future, I hope to build a directory of polamory awareness and support groups.

Posted on February 7, 2009
This entry is part 8 of 9 in the series 7 Questions to Ask Yourself If You Are Considering Polyamory
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By Sanja Gjenero @ stock.XCHNG

Cheaters do at least one honest thing: they acknowledge that one partner can’t meet all their needs and that they want to have sex or a relationship with someone other than their current partner. Then they fuck everything up by lying
~Tristan Taormino, Opening Up

If you have followed this series from the beginning, you’ve hopefully done the following:


There is one more important step that you need to consider:

  • If you’re already in a relationship, have you talked to your partner?
  • If you are single, how do you plan on telling your future partner(s)?


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Posted on February 6, 2009
This entry is part 7 of 9 in the series 7 Questions to Ask Yourself If You Are Considering Polyamory
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By Miguel Saavedra at stock.XCHNG

Take a look at your average week. How many activities do you currently pack into that time? You probably have sleep, work, and commuting filling up most of your days. Hopefully you spend time to groom yourself and eat properly. You probably have time set aside for activities that you enjoy (hobbies, exercise, blogging), and if you’re in a relationship,  you also spend time with your sweetie on a regular basis.  If you have children, they probably take up what little free time you have left, and then some! 

With everything filling up your calendar, how can you possibly have time for multiple significant others?  Today we are going to answer that question by looking into a concept called time management.


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