Sex

Discussions and thoughts on human sexuality
Photo Art: Dark Fetish by Lady Pain (Marta Manso)

The original inspiration for this post was a topic brought up on the OWBN Hour of Power, a podcast that is created by some of the more vocal members of One World By Night. OWBN is an international live action role playing (LARP) organization. 

(At ~22:00 into the podcast)
Who here has at least seen or participated in one of the most awkward [despicable!] elements of LARPing in general – and that is the in-character sex scene?

 

In the weeks that followed, my friends and I discussed this topic of "in-character sex scenes" and the various related issues, specifically -

  • How do LARPing and sex mix? 
  • Is it possible for eroticism to be a part of a “mature audiences only” gaming experience in a setting that denies most types of physical gratification?
  • Why would gamers bend (or break, or deny) element of a fictional world in order to get it on with another person’s character?
  • Relationship boundaries for one's "fantasy life"

You get to enjoy the end result of my mental ponderings :)

Kink Academy Student Badge

Since coming out to myself as a dominant last spring/summer, I spent time reading books and websites about D/s. I also went to my first munch in the local community.  I'm fortunate enough that my various "alt" social circles (LARP/Gamer, sci-fi fandom, BDSM and kink, poly, etc.) intersect, so it's easy for me to find people to talk to if needed. However, there's times that I have questions that I don't want to ask a friend about (yet), or there may be a particular topic my friends aren't familiar with. 

I know I'm not alone in this experience, which is why I want to tell you about a resource: Kink Academy. This is a website that provides on-demand sex education on a variety of topics.  

-  Before I jump into my review, I want to let you know that I'm not being compensated for this. I paid for my own membership cost out of pocket and am doing this review without prompting from the site's creators. In other words, I'm writing this because I really want to get the word out. :)

Photo by Rosika Voermans on Stock.XCHNG

Sex 2.0 was a powerful weekend for me. In addition to meeting a lot of awesome people, my worldview was shaken a little (in a good way). 

The majority of the world shifting happened during Veronica Monet's session about the Madonna/Whore complex.  During the session, one of the participants brought up the conflict they felt about indulging in their sexual desire - specifically activities that involved inflicting pain on others. Such activities run against what we think "good people" do. 

That struck a chord with me. My mind started racing at 60 miles an hour (or faster than whatever the 'speed limit' was ;) ). I felt my cheeks start to flush and couldn't tell if my eyes were going to water. I kept my head down, focused on microblogging the event, and told myself I would deal with my emotions later.

Later was these past two months.