Posted on May 24, 2009

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This entry is part 1 of 4 in the series All I need to know about poly community organizing...

… I learned from an evangelical church and a Fortune 500 company.

What? Did you think I was going to give credit to Star Wars, Kindergarden, or a whole bunch of other stuff?


Why use an evangelical church and a Fortune 500 company as examples?

These are two types of successful organization models that I’m familiar with. :p   They each have different traits or tactics that make them work. I want us to take a deeper examination into why they work so that we can take their “best practices” and use them for our own goals :) 


Who am I targeting?

This series is meant for anyone interested in any type of community organizing that’s focused on providing support for non-monogamists (poly, open, swinger, and everyone in between).  I hope that the information in this series is beneficial both for those that are working on a local level as well as those on a national level (though my guess is that it will be more beneficial for the latter group).

Posted on May 25, 2009
This entry is part 2 of 4 in the series All I need to know about poly community organizing...

Before I go further, I’d like to give a bit of an overview of the two organizations that I am using as examples for this series: the Fortune 500 company and the Evangelical/Charismatic church


Posted on June 2, 2009
This entry is part 3 of 4 in the series All I need to know about poly community organizing...

There are three words that make the possible either unlikely or impossible. They silence dreams and dampen expectations.  Maybe you’ve heard these words, and perhaps you’ve spoken them yourself. Who would’ve known that this small, incomplete phrase would close so many doors.

We can’t, because…


Posted on June 3, 2009
This entry is part 4 of 4 in the series All I need to know about poly community organizing...

One of the challenges that I’ve had as a local leader is that of finding volunteers for different projects.  I’ve hosted informational booths alone and spent hours putting up or tearing down party rooms on my own. I’ve spoken with group organizers in other areas of the country and found that they are struggling with the same thing - a level of apathy among the members of their organization when it comes to volunteerism.

From what I’ve seen - it’s not a question of whether or not these events and activities are beneficial to the group. In most cases, the gatherings that are planned and hosted by a few (nearly burnt-out) people end up being well attended by the larger membership base.  I also want to give the group members the benefit of the doubt and not assume that they are the type that will simply take without giving something in return. This still leaves the question on why the needs and desire of the whole are left on the shoulders of the few.

I have a theory as to why the leaders within the polyamory movement (both local organizations and the larger, national ones) are having difficulty finding volunteers for various efforts, and thus getting things done.  This hypothesis is based upon my personal experiences with the two organizational models highlighted in this series (churches and big businesses), as well as my personal research into books on management and productivity. 


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