communication

I wanted to take a moment to give everyone a heads up on the coolness that happened during the "Get Stuff Done" Conference that I held online last weekend. Sadly, I wasn't able to do lessons on both days as I originally planned.  I was called away on business and had to fly out on Sunday afternoon, leaving only Saturday for classes.  Here's the lessons that I presented: Leadership 101 (How to Fake Being A Well-Rounded Person):  The attendees learned the importance of self-knowle
Recently, Miss Polyamory interviewed Samatha Fraser, the author of the blog (and hopefully upcoming book): Not Your Mother's Playground. You can listen to the interview podcast here. Not Your Mother's Playground is Samantha's diary about open relationships.
For the last chapter in this series, I am going to move beyond the basic concept of an "open relationship" to that of a family of choice that shares expenses and responsibilites.  The members of your family can choose to live within the same household, or they can live in different physical locations (depending on space issues). In a traditional family arrangement, the couple has a limited amount of resources available to take care of household obligations. One or both members need to earn an income in order to maintain their lifestyle.  The need for income and financial stability may cause either partner to work in a job that may not be the best fit for them. In addition, the birth of children not only bring joy but also additional needs upon the household, most significantly that of constant supervision and care.
[caption id="attachment_173" align="alignright" width="250" caption="By Agata Urbaniak on stock.XCHNG"]By Agata Urbaniak on stock.XCHNG[/caption] Through miscommunication, boundaries accidentally being broken, or hurt feelings, there is the likelihood of tempers rising and conflict occurring.  In a polyamorous lifestyle, these issues cannot easily be ignored. You need to understand how you cope with conflict and stress, and how to resolve said conflict with as minimal /drama as possible. People have different ways that they cope with stress and conflict. We will take a few moments today to explore these in more detail.
[caption id="attachment_27" align="alignright" width="250" caption="By sanja gjenero @ stock.XCHNG"]By sanja gjenero @ stock.XCHNG[/caption] "The problem with communication ... is the illusion that it has been accomplished." ~ George Bernard Shaw  com·mu·ni·cate
  •  to convey knowledge of or information about : make known
   
  • to transmit information, thought, or feeling so that it is satisfactorily received or understood
"Communicate, communicate, communicate" is a mantra that you will probably hear over and over again by Sage Polyamorists Everywhere (tm).  The question comes up as to what qualifies as good communication, and why is it so important?