Poly 101

Info for those new to poly and the poly curious
[caption id="attachment_83" align="alignright" width="250" caption="Photo by Cezar Perelles @ stock.XCHNG"]Self reflection[/caption] "You must love yourself before you love another. By accepting yourself and fully being what you are, your simple presence can make others happy.” ~ Author Unknown   When I first ventured into my relationship with Corey over 11 years ago, I can honestly say that I did not love myself.  I hated the way I looked.  I felt socially awkward - partly from being an introvert, and partly from not having many established friendships in high school.  My low self esteem contributed to me not taking care of myself, which only made me loathe myself further.  It took years for me to accept and appreciate the positive aspects of myself to the point where the good thoughts outnumbered the bad. Whether you are in a relationship - whether it is with one partners or several -  it is important to love yourself as an individual.  By this, I do not mean narcissism, which is a malignant self-absorption. Instead I am referring to having a sense of self worth and self-esteem that is independent of others' view of you. This is important for a couple of reasons:
[caption id="attachment_28" align="alignright" width="250" caption="By Sanja Gjenero @ stock.XCHNG"]By Sanja Gjenero @ stock.XCHNG[/caption] This week, I will post a series of articles on different questions that a poly-curious individual should probably ask themselves before purusing a polyamorous lifestyle. The purpose of these articles is two fold
  • To help those of you that are new to polyamory examine their cu

By Martin Boulanger @ stock.XCHNG
By Martin Boulanger @ stock.XCHNG

As I noted in my previous entry, my first big leap into polyamory occurred in February, 2003. A lot has happened to me over the past 6 years. Some of  those experiences were good, while others have taught me harsh life lessons. I feel that some of these lessons are worth sharing with you.   
[caption id="attachment_30" align="alignright" width="250" caption="By Konrad Mostert @ stock.XCHNG"]By Konrad Mostert @ stock.XCHNG[/caption] (I originally posted this at shadowkin {dot} com) My husband and I are polyamorous. Some of you may know what that term means. Others of you may not. This article will hopefully give you a brief overview into the meaning behind the word, as well as some of the benefits and drawbacks of such a lifestyle.  
What does "polyamory" mean?:
The word "polyamory" is derived from the Greek word poly (several) and the Latin word amor (love).  The word can be used to describe a couple of things:
  • The nature of a relationship (I am in a polyamorous relationship)
  • A person's lifestyle/lovestyle (I am polyamorous)